Friday, October 31, 2008

Millicent Sibert 1928-2008

(Miss Sibert and other family members with my Mum at our Open House 2003)

Those of us who attended St. Nicholas' Primary School in Alor Setar in the '60s and '70s will never forget a (literally) larger-than-life personality, our headmistress Miss Millicent Sibert (or 'Missybert' as we kids pronounced it). As children, we remember her prowling the school looking for errant students and we were all terrified of her, not just because of her size but also because of her fierce demeanour.

It was only later when I took piano lessons from her that I realised that although she was strict, she was a kind and indulgent soul. My other piano-playing friends and I would follow her to Penang to take our piano exams and stay in her family house there. Apart from extra practice sessions with her, she let us be kids and we would jump on the beds in our room and mess it all up with glee and she never told us off.

I remember her as a very tall person, almost a giantess. But I guess it was because I was a relatively small child. But whatever her height was, her girth was certainly intimidating.

Miss Sibert used to come to school in a trishaw, as did many teachers and students in those days. One day the tires of the trishaw burst just as she arrived at the school gates. It was all we could do to control ourselves and not burst into laughter! I'm sure Miss Sibert also found it funny then but we poor little girls were so terrified of her that we could not imagine anything less than a severe scolding from her.

In her later years, Miss Sibert retired to Penang and we would hear off and on about her. The last time I saw her was about five years ago when she came to our Hari Raya open house at my parents' place ( see the photo above). I was returning from Bali and the flight was delayed and by the time I arrived, Miss Sibert was about to leave. She was in a wheelchair and had grown thin but she was bright and alert and smiled warmly.

Two nights ago, Millicent Sibert breathed her last, just a few months after celebrating her 80th birthday. It wasn't really expected but the end came swiftly and gently.

God bless her gentle soul. She guided so many of us girls through our formative years and was proud that we did well. It'll be hard to forget our 'Missybert'.

Wednesday, October 29, 2008

Tomboys, Yoga...what next?

Coming soon: Fatwa on yoga

Oct 29, 08 4:08pm, Malaysiakini

The National Fatwa Council will be issuing a ruling soon relating to yoga exercise, which is deemed to be deviationist in nature for the Muslims.

An announcement on the matter is expected to be made soon by the fatwa council's chairperson Prof Dr Abdul Shukor Husin.

This was revealed by the deputy director-general of the Department of Islamic Development Malaysia (Jakim) Othman Mustapha, reported Bernama today.

Yesterday, UKM lecturer Prof Zakaria Stapa advised Muslims who have taken up yoga - a widely popular exercise which has its roots to India and Hinduism - to stop practising it for fear that it could deviate them from their belief.

"Yoga originated from the Hindu community and it combines spiritual as well as their religious aspects. They believe it brings them closer to their god," he was reported as saying in Berita Harian today.

Zakaria was reported to have said that more Muslims were resorting to yoga exercise to find a balance in their hectic lifestyle.

He added that they should instead apply the Islamic teachings such as prayers to find peace and good health.

"If the Muslims want a healthy body, prayers are the right choice... why must we find alternate ways... a single mistake can deviate our teachings as yoga movements follow the style and tradition of Hinduism," he was reported as saying.

Ban on tomboys

The perils of yoga to the Muslims is learnt to have been discussed at the recently held fatwa council meeting in Kota Baru, Kelantan.

At the fatwa council meeting, the religious scholars have also decided to issue a fatwa against females from dressing or behaving like men and engaging in lesbian sex.

Council chairperson Abdul Shukor had said that many young women admired the way men dress, behave and socialise, violating human nature and denying their feminity.

"It is unacceptable to see women who love the male lifestyle including dressing in the clothes men wear," Abdul Shukor was quoted as saying.

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I'm just waiting for the National Fatwa Council to come out with fatwas against corruption, violence against women, cheating etc. Instead they have these.

Do they know anything about yoga or is this a classic case of reacting out of fear and ignorance? Yoga may have spiritual roots but most of us do it for the exercise, both for the mind and body. It helps you to focus and in fact helps you to focus when you do your prayers. The one thing it does not do is make you want to beat up anyone, call people nasty names or issue fatwas on things you don't understand.

If prayers are the only thing you need to be healthy, why are there so many unhealthy Muslims? Is this an indication that they don't pray? If all you need do is pray, why do sports or eat healthily?

If they have ever found any Muslim who has converted out solely because of yoga, they should produce evidence instead of speculating on the 'weakness' of our faith. If it is 'weak' at all, it is because people like the Fatwa Council have done nothing to make it strong, constantly weakening it through fear and ignorance.

And what is this thing about 'dressing in clothes men wear'? If I wear a pantsuit (which incidentally covers very well), am I dressing like a man? If I cut my hair short because it is easier to upkeep, is that forbidden? Will we now have the Fatwa Council scan the fashion magazines and make rulings about which clothes are 'masculine' and which are 'feminine'? (And what is there to admire about 'the male lifestyle' when males are represented by the men on the Fatwa Council?)

I know, I know...someone is going to tell me to shut up because apparently I don't know my religion. Well, that is a matter of opinion. The Islam that I believe in is just and fair, is compassionate, loving and peaceful.Someone tell me that's the wrong Islam.

Monday, October 27, 2008

Happy Deepavali!

Wishing everyone much light and joy on this day and for many many years to come!

Thursday, October 23, 2008

Cowardice in our Universities?


Iranian Nobel prize winner won’t be speaking at forum

PETALING JAYA: Iranian Nobel Peace Prize winner Dr Shirin Ebadi will not be speaking at the Bridges - Dialogues Towards A Culture of Peace forum which begins on Nov 3.

Universiti Malaya (UM), which is hosting the event, said Ebadi was invited through a letter dated Sept 10 to speak at the forum but it has now decided against it after seeking the Foreign Ministry’s advice.

Instead, the university would now focus on a chemistry lecture by another Nobel laureate Professor Dr Ryoji Noyori, said vice-chancellor Datuk Rafiah Salim in a statement.

She added that the university did not receive any directive to cancel the peace forum.

Rafiah, however, was quoted by AFP yesterday as saying that the decision was made “out of respect for our Iranian students who were not very happy.” (How many Iranian students are there in UM? If they are not happy, they should say why and they can have a peaceful protest outside the hall where she is speaking.)

UM had written to the ministry to seek its views on inviting Ebadi on Sept 3.

The ministry replied in a letter signed by the Middle East and North Africa division secretary Dr Hasrul Sani Mujtabar advising UM to withdraw its invitation to keep the close ties between Malaysia and Iran.

The letter, made available to The Star, said it was not wise to invite Ebadi as the Iranian Government viewed her as a critic supporting “Western agenda”.

UM has faxed the ministry’s letter to other organisers like the International Islamic University Malaysia and Asian Strategic Leadership Institute.

Ebadi is the first Muslim woman to have been awarded the prize and is known for championing democracy and human rights for women, children and refugees. (Is 'championing democracy and human rights for women, children and refugees' a Western agenda? The rest of us don't believe in this?)

The peace forum, which features a series of talks by Nobel laureates, will be held from November to April next year in Malaysia and Thailand.



Friday, October 17, 2008

Fleeing the Beat


Policemen beat a retreat

KUALA LUMPUR: A police beat base located in the Chow Kit area of downtown Kuala Lumpur has been shut down because the “presence of criminals could make it unsafe” for police officers. (Well! The presence of criminals makes it unsafe for the rest of us too but guess we can't rely on the police?)

Home Minister Datuk Seri Syed Hamid Albar said the beat base was located in a dirty area where police faced the possibility of being exposed to contagious diseases. (What diseases exactly?)

The presence of criminals also posed a threat to the safety of police officers. (No! Really?)

He said this in a written reply to Dr Lo’ Lo’ Mohamad Ghazali (PAS - Titiwangsa).

Dr Lo’ Lo’ had asked why the beat base along Jalan Haji Taib was closed considering that vice activities were high in the area.

She also wanted to know what kind of action had been taken by the police to curb vice activities in the Chow Kit area.

Syed Hamid said police were in the midst of finding a new location for the beat base.

In an immediate response, City Chief Police Officer Deputy Comm Datuk Mohd Sabtu Osman said the beat base was not shut down but relocated to bigger premises near Jalan Raja Bot. (Funny, the CPO doesn't seem to have briefed Syed Hamid that they have found a place...)

“We moved there to provide better service as we have increased our manpower and need more space,” he said.

Dr Lo’ Lo’s question was the 30th in the Order Paper and hence did not get a mention in the House during the daily one-hour Question Time.

However, Dr Mohd Hatta Ramli (PAS - Kuala Krai) managed to raise the matter when he interjected during Azmin Ali’s (PKR - Gombak) speech during the debate on Budget 2009.

Dr Mohd Hatta said that if the police themselves felt unsafe in a beat base, it would be even worse for the public.

“Maybe it would be better to put the beat base in the army barracks.”

Dr Mohd Hatta then managed to raise the issue again during his own debate on Budget 2009 saying that Syed Hamid’s response was irrational and hoped he would clarify his written answer as this was not the kind of police the people wanted.

“The police are there to make a place safe. If they themselves are scared and run away, how can we hope for others to want to be there?” he asked.

Dr Mohd Hatta said if the place was dirty, it was up to the police to organise gotong-royong activities to clean it up.

He added the only kind of contagious disease in the area was sexually transmitted, adding that getting infected was a matter of choice. (Can we then give the denizens of Chow Kit a choice in NOT getting infected by giving them condoms?)

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I can understand Syed Hamid not getting it right but even Dr Hatta, a medical doctor, seems to be confused between a contagious disease and an infectious one.

According to the freedictionary.com, a contagious disease is defined as: A disease communicable by contact with a patient suffering from it, or with some secretion of, or object touched by, such a patient. Most such diseases have already been proved to be germ diseases, and their communicability depends on the transmission of the living germs. Many germ diseases are not contagious, some special method of transmission or inoculation of the germs being required.

On the other hand, an infectious disease is defined as any disease caused by the entrance, growth, and multiplication of microorganisms in the body; a germ disease. It may not be contagious.

I would guess that the disease most feared by the police in the Chow Kit area is HIV/AIDS which is an infectious disease, not a contagious one. You can't get it just by hanging around people who have HIV.

Thursday, October 16, 2008

Letting Loose the Racist Pitbulls


(I'm posting this because the way the McCain campaign has conducted itself resonates with some of the things happening here. We need to take heed.)


October 12, 2008
Op-Ed Columnist

The Terrorist Barack Hussein Obama

IF you think way back to the start of this marathon campaign, back when it seemed preposterous that any black man could be a serious presidential contender, then you remember the biggest fear about Barack Obama: a crazy person might take a shot at him.

Some voters told reporters that they didn’t want Obama to run, let alone win, should his very presence unleash the demons who have stalked America from Lincoln to King. After consultation with Congress, Michael Chertoff, the homeland security secretary, gave Obama a Secret Service detail earlier than any presidential candidate in our history — in May 2007, some eight months before the first Democratic primaries.

“I’ve got the best protection in the world, so stop worrying,” Obama reassured his supporters. Eventually the country got conditioned to his appearing in large arenas without incident (though I confess that the first loud burst of fireworks at the end of his convention stadium speech gave me a start). In America, nothing does succeed like success. The fear receded.

Until now. At McCain-Palin rallies, the raucous and insistent cries of “Treason!” and “Terrorist!” and “Kill him!” and “Off with his head!” as well as the uninhibited slinging of racial epithets, are actually something new in a campaign that has seen almost every conceivable twist. They are alarms. Doing nothing is not an option.

All’s fair in politics. John McCain and Sarah Palin have every right to bring up William Ayers, even if his connection to Obama is minor, even if Ayers’s Weather Underground history dates back to Obama’s childhood, even if establishment Republicans and Democrats alike have collaborated with the present-day Ayers in educational reform. But it’s not just the old Joe McCarthyesque guilt-by-association game, however spurious, that’s going on here. Don’t for an instant believe the many mindlessly “even-handed” journalists who keep saying that the McCain campaign’s use of Ayers is the moral or political equivalent of the Obama campaign’s hammering on Charles Keating.

What makes them different, and what has pumped up the Weimar-like rage at McCain-Palin rallies, is the violent escalation in rhetoric, especially (though not exclusively) by Palin. Obama “launched his political career in the living room of a domestic terrorist.” He is “palling around with terrorists” (note the plural noun). Obama is “not a man who sees America the way you and I see America.” Wielding a wildly out-of-context Obama quote, Palin slurs him as an enemy of American troops.

By the time McCain asks the crowd “Who is the real Barack Obama?” it’s no surprise that someone cries out “Terrorist!” The rhetorical conflation of Obama with terrorism is complete. It is stoked further by the repeated invocation of Obama’s middle name by surrogates introducing McCain and Palin at these rallies. This sleight of hand at once synchronizes with the poisonous Obama-is-a-Muslim e-mail blasts and shifts the brand of terrorism from Ayers’s Vietnam-era variety to the radical Islamic threats of today.

That’s a far cry from simply accusing Obama of being a guilty-by-association radical leftist. Obama is being branded as a potential killer and an accessory to past attempts at murder. “Barack Obama’s friend tried to kill my family” was how a McCain press release last week packaged the remembrance of a Weather Underground incident from 1970 — when Obama was 8.

We all know what punishment fits the crime of murder, or even potential murder, if the security of post-9/11 America is at stake. We all know how self-appointed “patriotic” martyrs always justify taking the law into their own hands.

Obama can hardly be held accountable for Ayers’s behavior 40 years ago, but at least McCain and Palin can try to take some responsibility for the behavior of their own supporters in 2008. What’s troubling here is not only the candidates’ loose inflammatory talk but also their refusal to step in promptly and strongly when someone responds to it with bloodthirsty threats in a crowded arena. Joe Biden had it exactly right when he expressed concern last week that “a leading American politician who might be vice president of the United States would not just stop midsentence and turn and condemn that.” To stay silent is to pour gas on the fires.

It wasn’t always thus with McCain. In February he loudly disassociated himself from a speaker who brayed “Barack Hussein Obama” when introducing him at a rally in Ohio. Now McCain either backpedals with tardy, pro forma expressions of respect for his opponent or lets second-tier campaign underlings release boilerplate disavowals after ugly incidents like the chilling Jim Crow-era flashback last week when a Florida sheriff ranted about “Barack Hussein Obama” at a Palin rally while in full uniform.

From the start, there have always been two separate but equal questions about race in this election. Is there still enough racism in America to prevent a black man from being elected president no matter what? And, will Republicans play the race card? The jury is out on the first question until Nov. 4. But we now have the unambiguous answer to the second: Yes.

McCain, who is no racist, turned to this desperate strategy only as Obama started to pull ahead. The tone was set at the Republican convention, with Rudy Giuliani’s mocking dismissal of Obama as an “only in America” affirmative-action baby. We also learned then that the McCain campaign had recruited as a Palin handler none other than Tucker Eskew, the South Carolina consultant who had worked for George W. Bush in the notorious 2000 G.O.P. primary battle where the McCains and their adopted Bangladeshi daughter were slimed by vicious racist rumors.

No less disconcerting was a still-unexplained passage of Palin’s convention speech: Her use of an unattributed quote praising small-town America (as opposed to, say, Chicago and its community organizers) from Westbrook Pegler, the mid-century Hearst columnist famous for his anti-Semitism, racism and violent rhetorical excess. After an assassin tried to kill F.D.R. at a Florida rally and murdered Chicago’s mayor instead in 1933, Pegler wrote that it was “regrettable that Giuseppe Zangara shot the wrong man.” In the ’60s, Pegler had a wish for Bobby Kennedy: “Some white patriot of the Southern tier will spatter his spoonful of brains in public premises before the snow falls.”

This is the writer who found his way into a speech by a potential vice president at a national political convention. It’s astonishing there’s been no demand for a public accounting from the McCain campaign. Imagine if Obama had quoted a Black Panther or Louis Farrakhan — or William Ayers — in Denver.

The operatives who would have Palin quote Pegler have been at it ever since. A key indicator came two weeks after the convention, when the McCain campaign ran its first ad tying Obama to the mortgage giant Fannie Mae. Rather than make its case by using a legitimate link between Fannie and Obama (or other Democratic leaders), the McCain forces chose a former Fannie executive who had no real tie to Obama or his campaign but did have a black face that could dominate the ad’s visuals.

There are no black faces high in the McCain hierarchy to object to these tactics. There hasn’t been a single black Republican governor, senator or House member in six years. This is a campaign where Palin can repeatedly declare that Alaska is “a microcosm of America” without anyone even wondering how that might be so for a state whose tiny black and Hispanic populations are each roughly one-third the national average. There are indeed so few people of color at McCain events that a black senior writer from The Tallahassee Democrat was mistakenly ejected by the Secret Service from a campaign rally in Panama City in August, even though he was standing with other reporters and showed his credentials. His only apparent infraction was to look glaringly out of place.

Could the old racial politics still be determinative? I’ve long been skeptical of the incessant press prognostications (and liberal panic) that this election will be decided by racist white men in the Rust Belt. Now even the dimmest bloviators have figured out that Americans are riveted by the color green, not black — as in money, not energy. Voters are looking for a leader who might help rescue them, not a reckless gambler whose lurching responses to the economic meltdown (a campaign “suspension,” a mortgage-buyout stunt that changes daily) are as unhinged as his wanderings around the debate stage.

To see how fast the tide is moving, just look at North Carolina. On July 4 this year — the day that the godfather of modern G.O.P. racial politics, Jesse Helms, died — The Charlotte Observer reported that strategists of both parties agreed Obama’s chances to win the state fell “between slim and none.” Today, as Charlotte reels from the implosion of Wachovia, the McCain-Obama race is a dead heat in North Carolina and Helms’s Republican successor in the Senate, Elizabeth Dole, is looking like a goner.

But we’re not at Election Day yet, and if voters are to have their final say, both America and Obama have to get there safely. The McCain campaign has crossed the line between tough negative campaigning and inciting vigilantism, and each day the mob howls louder. The onus is on the man who says he puts his country first to call off the dogs, pit bulls and otherwise.

The New York Times Company

Wednesday, October 15, 2008

Despicable!

That's the only word I can use to describe the cerpen by Chamil Warya published in Utusan Malaysia recently.

Am I imagining it or is there also a sexist element to all this? That because it is a woman who is outspoken, she is subject to a more violent response than anyone else?

There is no excuse for violence or even the suggestion of a violent solution to anyone who has a different view from you. To write a fictionalised account of such a 'what-if' scenario is also no excuse. Utusan Malaysia has lost whatever shred of moral high ground it might have had.

Sunday, October 12, 2008

It Figures...


Sensational reporting can hurt mental health, says doc

IPOH: Irresponsible reporting and the use of incorrect expressions can affect the mental health of readers, especially suicide survivors, Ulu Kinta Hospital Bahagia director Datuk Dr Suarn Singh said.

It is very traumatic, especially in suicide cases. If the reporting is sensationalised, those involved may be affected.”

Speaking at a press conference on Friday after the launch of the seventh Perak Mental Health Convention here, he said journalists could boost or destroy a person’s mental health.

Referring to the World Federation for Mental Health guidelines for reporting released earlier this year, Dr Suarn Singh said: “Some things should just be kept in confidentiality. We believe that in cases like suicides, every one suicide affects 20 others.”

He said showing of traumatic events on the broadcast news or those written about or captured in photographs in newspapers or magazines could also affect mental health.

“Some people may even perform copy cat crimes. They read about them and then they get the idea to do the same thing,” he said.

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I wish he could have given really more specific examples so we can understand this better. Like, what are the incorrect expressions?

And I totally agree with him about the disrespect for a person's confidentiality. There have been any number of problems caused by media reports that did not respect the confidentiality of people with HIV/AIDS. One reporter told me that she thought the need for confidentiality ended when a person died! Amazing that they don't remember that everybody leaves family behind.

So ya, the media can drive you nuts...

Friday, October 10, 2008

In the next 5 months, I will...

...clear out my closets and give away the clothes I haven't worn for at least the last year...
...organise the books in my library into some semblance of order...
...start writing down all the stories I remember before I forget them...
...get fit and lose, say, 5 kg..
...learn to speak French properly..

Of course I've been saying this for the last five years or so. But guess I'm not the only one who's berangan-angan...

(8/10 PM Abdullah says his agenda for the next 5 months will be to revamp judiciary and police force, and ramp up anti-graft fight/STAR)

Monday, October 6, 2008

Slowly, Afghan Women Make Strides

Nahida Rezai was the first woman to join the police force in Bamian - Photo by Moises Saman, NYT

October 6, 2008

In Poverty and Strife, Women Test Limits


By CARLOTTA GALL, New York Times

BAMIAN, Afghanistan — Far away from the Taliban insurgency, in this most peaceful corner of Afghanistan, a quiet revolution is gaining pace.

Women are driving cars — a rarity in Afghanistan — working in public offices and police stations, and sitting on local councils. There is even a female governor, the first and only one in Afghanistan.

In many ways this province, Bamian, is unique. A half-dozen years of relative peace in this part of the country since the fall of the Taliban and a lessening of lawlessness and disorder have allowed women to push the boundaries here.

Most of the people in Bamian are ethnic Hazaras, Shiite Muslims who are in any case more open than most Afghans to the idea of women working outside the home.

But the changes in women’s lives here are also an enormous step for Afghanistan as a whole. And they may point the way to broader possibilities for women, eventually, if peace can be secured in this very conservative Muslim society, which has been dominated by militia commanders and warlords during the last 30 years of war.

In a country with low rankings on many indicators of social progress, women and girls are the most disadvantaged.

More than 80 percent of Afghan women are illiterate. Women’s life expectancy is only 45 years, lower than that of men, mostly because of the very high rates of death during pregnancy. Forced marriage and under-age marriage are common for girls, and only 13 percent of girls complete primary school, compared with 32 percent of boys.

The cult of war left women particularly vulnerable. For years now they have been the victims of abduction and rape. Hundreds of thousands were left war widows, mired in desperate poverty. Particularly in the last years of Taliban rule, even widows, who had no one to provide for them, were not allowed to work or leave the home unaccompanied by a male relative.


Fear of armed militiamen left women afraid even to walk in front of the police station in the town of Bamian, recalled Nahida Rezai, 25, the first woman to join the police force here. “And I came right into the police station,” she said, admitting to some fears.

At the beginning, she had some problems. “I received some threats by telephone,” she said. “But now I am working as a police officer, I think nothing can deter me.”

Nekbakht, 20, joined the police force, too, and now helps her father, a casual laborer, support the family. They live in a single room tucked into the cliff face of Bamian valley, where homeless refugees have found shelter in caves inhabited centuries ago by Buddhist pilgrims.

“It was very difficult to find a job,” she said. “We had economic problems, and with the high prices life was difficult. Finally, I decided if I could not find another job, I should go into the police.” After joining nine months ago, she likes the job so much she says she is encouraging other women to join, too.

Indeed, growing economic hardship has helped drive some women to join the work force or to take other bold steps as they try to help their families cope with a severe drought, rising food prices and unemployment.

Zeinab Husseini, 19, sits in the driver's seat of her vehicle accompanied by her husband. Photo by Moises Saman, NYT.

That was the case for Zeinab Husseini, 19. Her father, with seven daughters and no sons, says he had little choice when he needed a second driver to help at home.

“I like driving,” she said, seated at the wheel of her family’s minibus. “I was interested from childhood to learn to drive and to buy a car. I was the first woman in Bamian to drive.”

But over all, it is the return to relative peace here that has allowed for women’s progress, said the governor, Habiba Sarabi, a doctor and educator who ran underground literacy classes during the Taliban regime.

“If the general situation improves, it can improve the situation for women,” she said. She pushed to have policewomen so they could handle women’s cases, and there are now 14 women on the force, she said.

Some of the changes in Bamian have been echoed in more conservative parts of Afghanistan. But even the success stories sometimes end up showing the continuing dangers for women who take jobs to improve their lot. In Kandahar Province, one of the most noted female police officials in the country, Capt. Malalai Kakar, was gunned down on her way to work on Sept. 28.

In Bamian Province, Mrs. Sarabi, 52, has been the driving force behind women’s progress in public life. Her appointment by President Hamid Karzai three years ago as governor of Bamian was a bold move when jihadi leaders were still so powerful in the towns and countryside.

Some opponents are still agitating for her removal, Mrs. Sarabi said. “It is not only because they are against women,” she said, “but they do not want to lose power, so they make trouble for the governor.”

The people of Bamian say they accepted a woman as governor in the hope that an English-speaking, development-oriented technocrat like Mrs. Sarabi would deliver jobs and prosperity.

In fact, the success of women’s Community Development Councils here has caught the attention of the World Bank, which has been a major donor to the programs and is looking to develop them further. Around the country there are 17,000 such councils, which choose local development projects and could be expanded to work on district and regional levels, said the bank’s president, Robert B. Zoellick, who visited Bamian this year.

“They are very effective,” he said of the councils in a recent interview. “People feel they have an influence in the future.”

The quiet work being done by women on the councils and in other jobs has helped turn things around for many in Bamian.

Najiba, 48, is a woman in Yakowlang District who lost her husband in the notorious massacre by Taliban forces there in the winter of 2000-1.

The Taliban fighters came on horseback, forcing the villagers and townspeople to flee in the night, leaving everything behind. Their shops and homes were set on fire while they sought refuge in the mountains.

After the American intervention in Afghanistan and the fall of the Taliban in late 2001, they returned home to nothing, not even a roof over their heads.

“I just had one skirt, and I was always patching it,” Najiba said.

As the government began development programs in the provinces, Najiba was elected head of a newly formed women’s development council, representing her village and the neighboring village. Its job was to plan how to spend a government development grant.

The men’s council decided the area needed a road, and flood barriers to save the farming land near the river. The women’s council wanted instead to buy livestock for each family, traditionally the women’s domain in Afghan households, to improve the food supply for families.

The men won that debate. “We did not get the farming project,” Najiba said. “We are still suggesting it was valuable; we are trying to work on our projects so we don’t have to depend on the men.”

The women got their way with the next project: solar panels to provide light to groups of four houses. That project has opened up all sorts of ideas, for computers, televisions and educational and election programs, she said.

Women have participated in literacy and tailoring training programs, too. Najiba laughed as she explained: “We have changed our way of life. Now I have lots of skirts.”

She added, “It all comes down to the council.”

Now, women are taking courses run by nongovernmental organizations, getting educated and learning ways to improve their family incomes. Most important, the women have won over the men, she said.

“Their minds have changed,” Najiba said. “They want to share decisions, not too far, but they want to give us some share.”

Sunday, October 5, 2008

Open Housing in KL and Jakarta

Hi folks, sorry for the silence but you know how it is with Raya. Visiting family, sitting around eating endlessly and doing myriad Raya things. It's nice though because you only get to do this once a year and you get to see everyone in one go.

This year I did something I don't normally do, I went to the cemetery. In KL I went to visit the graves of two recently-departed and much-loved cousins whom I miss a lot. In Jakarta where I flew on the second day of Raya to visit my in-laws, I went to visit the graves of my late father-in-law Soemario Sosrowardoyo and my late sister-in-law Shaista Juliarti Sosrowardoyo. The late Soemario was a career diplomat and by coincidence he was the No 2 man in the Indonesian delegation at the UN during Konfrontasi while on our side, his opposite number was also a friend, the late Tan Sri Zain Azraai. We didn't know this until years later when Tan Sri Zain met my hubby and compared notes about those years.

Anyway Raya in Jakarta is much the same as in KL, with visiting relatives and friends and eating lots of food. The food is similar but different, if you know what I mean. They have ketupat but it is eaten with meat and vegetable curries, rather than kuah kacang. The kuihs are similar but they have the famous 'spekook' (otherwise known as kuih lapis) and 'kastengel' or cheese sticks.We visited one house for home-cooked nasi padang and the best thinnest dendeng in the world.

Kids of course have the most fun. Part of the fun is being able to play with fireworks which we bought at a small warong by the roadside.



Meantime...am returning to KL today. Will however miss Dad's Open House today so sorry not to meet any of you who are going there. But have a good one!